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Jacqueline Rose’s fascinating insights into the distortions of motherhood

Mothers: An Essay on Love and Cruelty is an urgent feminist appeal for cultural change
https://www.irishtimes.com/culture/books/jacqueline-rose-s-fascinating-insights-into-the-distortions-of-motherhood-1.3484321

Rose argues that “given voice, space and time, motherhood can, and should, be one of the central means through which a historical moment reckons with itself”. Why, then, she demands, is it marginalised in public and political life? With magnificent scorn she casts aside Sheryl Sandberg’s “ghastly imperative” to “lean in”, quoting sociologist Angela McRobbie on the “neoliberal intensification of mothering”. This, Rose notes, consists of the “perfectly turned out, middle class, mainly white mothers, with their perfect jobs, perfect husbands and perfect marriages, whose permanent glow of self satisfaction is intended to make all women who do not conform to that image… feel like total failures”. It is an illusion founded on “a pack of lies”. Among the women who fail are those whose poverty forces them to leave their own children and travel abroad, often as undocumented migrants, to mind the children of the allegedly perfect.

Caring for something until it is ready to live on its own; stepping back, but not quite letting go. Being a good mother, not a bad father.

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Dido - 버림받은 여인
Ariadene
Asclepius
Cassandra
Cumaean Sibly
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